ADOPTION EDUCATION, LLC

WAITING PARENTS AND LIFEBOOKS

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BELIEVE

Instead, try believing that the adoption process will result in parenthood. After all, thousands of other adults have successfully become adoptive parents. You have a good chance! Act as though you are going to become a parent, and no doubt you will.

As a waiting adoptive parent myself, I found that I was sucked into the paperwork vortex. I was anxious, wondering, and self-absorbed. Plus I had all the typical questions, doubts, and fears of a new mother.

One night, many months into the process, it occurred to me that I was waiting for a baby who already had a mother and that I had better start thinking about her. This is pretty bad considering I not only write books on this subject but also was adopted as a child myself. But it goes to show you how emotions take over.

Many of the emotions connected with adoption hurt. Along with the exquisite joy and highs of parenthood, there are painful aspects-losses-to consider. These are simply inescapable.

 

Written by Beth O'Malley M.Ed adoptee and new adoptive Mom, helping families create lifebooks---sign up for free LifeBook Tips at www.adoptionlifebooks.com.
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